Why Does it Sometimes Seem Like JESUS doesn't Love Me?
Why does it sometimes seem like JESUS doesn't love me?
I know at different stages in my own personal life, it did seem like from time to time that JESUS didn’t love me. I have read the bible where it talks about over and over again just how much GOD loves his children, and even though I have studied these scriptures constantly, still from time to time it did seem like the love of GOD just wasn’t there... The key word there was seemed..... I have been meditating on this very topic for about one year now waiting for the LORD himself to teach me what is really going on here!
During this same year, the LORD has sent countless Christian and non Christian people across my path who have expressed the same exact thing to me. I have heard from Christian men and women who over and over again expressed to me that JESUS just didn’t love them. Or at least they thought that JESUS didn’t love them. I have heard the same exact statement from non believers too.
This article is going to express exactly what the LORD himself has shown unto me why it sometimes feels like the LORD doesn’t love us....
This article is geared mainly for Christian men and women, it is NOT written for the non believers.
What the LORD JESUS taught me as to why we sometimes feel like he doesn’t love us is so simple, I can type it all here in a single sentence.......
*The number 1 reason why it seems like JESUS doesn’t love us sometimes, is almost always because certain circumstances in our life didn’t go the way we wanted it to. Here are a few examples of exactly what I am talking about.
1). The Christian man or woman whom you have been dating for 1 year now, the man or woman whom you love very dearly has decided to break it off with you. He called you on the phone to tell you that he no longer loves you, and that he wont be seeing you any longer………… Many of us when we get our hearts broken like this, tend to think that JESUS just doesn’t love us anymore. When loved ones leave us or break up with us or even divorce us, many of us in our pain and depression quickly come to the conclusion in our hearts and minds, that JESUS has decided to stop loving us.
I am here to tell you that nothing could be father from the truth. --- Now here is another example.
2). Maybe you have been UN employed for a very long time. You apply at job after job but they keep choosing someone else to fill the position. The weeks have turned into months now, and for some of us, the months have even turned into years. Many of us feel like that the LORD doesn’t love us any more. Because the LORD hasn’t opened up a door yet for us, and because our bills and debts are piling up higher and higher, some of us now start to question the love of the LORD.
Here is another example.
3). You wanted to be a Christian musician and to lead worship in church. This has been a dream of yours for years and years. But JESUS has never opened a single door for you to play in church. In fact just the opposite has happened. You found yourself getting into financial trouble and you ended up placing ad’s online to sell all of your music equipment. A few years have gone by now, and you no longer even own a guitar or piano…….. You stopped playing music completely and all of your dreams have seemed to have been washed away. Many of you who have experienced lessons like these, from time to time feel like the LORD just doesn't love you.
Now be patient, here is one last example.
4). In a 90 day period, your boss fired you, your wife left you taking your new born baby with her, and all of your dreams were shattered. On top of all of that, your own family members seem to be turning against you! Because of these terrible circumstances that rained down on you, you feel like JESUS just doesn’t love you anymore. You feel like JESUS has walked away from you, or you feel like JESUS has even forgotten about you.
Let me tell you people, that nothing could be farther from the truth.
In the few examples above, if you look at the words carefully, it SEEMED like JESUS didn't love us. Or it felt like JESUS didn't love us. We have to learn to NOT go by our feelings and emotions, but to stand on bible promises.
JESUS taught me himself that just about every single time we question his love for us, it is because something in our life or lives didn't go our way. It didn't go the way we were hoping, or maybe it didn't even go the way we were praying for it to go.
So just like little children, when things don’t go our way, we quickly forget about bible promises, and accuse JESUS of NOT loving us any longer. I myself have done the exact same thing.
We have to keep growing in the LORD, and a part of growing up is to learn to put aside our feelings and emotions and even circumstances, and to STAND STRONG on bible promises that show us how much JESUS loves us………………….
Let’s take a look at Romans 8:38 now in great detail!! Let us see what JESUS wrote through Paul about how much he loves all of his children including you and me!
Romans 8:38 - 38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love.
(Look at that - GOD says NOTHING, not a single thing can ever separate us from HIS love. Isn't that amazing brothers and sisters to know that nothing will ever be able to separate us from GOD loving us). Then Paul goes on to say -
Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. (GOD says through Paul that NOTHING in death or life can make GOD stop loving us. He then goes on to say not even the Holy angels or demons can stop GOD or influence GOD to stop loving us. The angels cant stop GOD from loving us, and the demons cannot stop GOD. This is how much GOD loves you).
But Paul continues on now -
39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Look at that last sentence brothers and sisters. Nothing in all of creation can stop GOD from loving you………. GOD has never created a single thing or entity or power that make him stop loving you…. This would include all of Heaven, all of Earth, and all of the known universes….. Once again GOD says that NOTHING in all of creation will ever be able to make GOD stop loving you!!!!!!
Let us go by what GOD says, NOT by what our feelings or emotions say……… And know that yes, GOD does love you….
In fact GOD loves you so much - look at the next scripture!!!
Psalm 36:5 - 5 Your love, O LORD, reaches to the heavens,
your faithfulness to the skies.
Wow, the love that GOD has for you is so high, it even reaches into the heavens. Or in other words, the love that GOD has for you far surpasses the height of our planet Earth and it goes all the way up to the highest heavens.
Now reading that scripture should really start to paint a good picture on just how much GOD loves you………….
But - Can the love that GOD has for you even be measured?
Look at the next scripture!
Paul says in Ephesians 3:18 - And may you have the power to understand, as all GOD’S people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of CHRIST, though it is too great to fully understand………………….
GOD’S love for you is wider then we can use human words to explain. His love for you is longer then any river, longer then any ocean, longer then any galaxy. His love for you is higher then any mountain, higher then any planet, higher then even the heavens.
The love that JESUS has for you is even too great to understand. We in our human minds and hearts cant even comprehend how much THE LORD JESUS loves all of us…………..
BUT - Here is an example of how much JESUS LOVES YOU!
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
GOD loved the world so much, he sent his own SON JESUS down to earth to die for our wicked and filthy sins. Now that is true love so stop doubting that GOD loves you.
GOD sent JESUS to die in a terrible, terrible death naked on the cross. He was tortured on and off for around 12 hours. The bible says that he was mis-figured more then anyone else. In other words, JESUS wasn't recognizable on the cross. Even in the movie - The Passion of Christ - Mel Gibson held back - the death of JESUS was much worse then what Mel Gibson showed in his movie………….
Here is 1st John 3:16 -
We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us.
JESUS left Heaven where he was king, to die in a terrible nasty death on the cross for your sins. The Apostle John says that this is what true love is.
The point I am making with these scriptures are exactly what JESUS taught me.
We usually feel that JESUS doesn’t love us when circumstances in our lives DON’T GO OUR WAY……. So we do what all children do, and we pout, and get depressed, and we complain. As we do those negative emotions and negative actions, they almost always lead us to believe that JESUS no longer loves us…………… All we are really doing is lying to ourselves. We are saying no to scriptures, and we are believing the lies that our pain and depression is feeding to us.
Check out this scripture -
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
JESUS says through John that the greatest form of love is when we lay down our lives for our friends. Brothers and sisters, this is exactly what JESUS did for us. JESUS showed us the highest form of love when he willingly died on the cross for our nasty sins.
How about another scripture?
1 John 4:9
God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.
John says above - Not that we loved GOD, but that HE LOVED US………….. GOD loves you, and I want to encourage you to trust SCRIPTURES, NOT your own emotions or thoughts.
Here is another scripture for you -
Psalm 63:3 - 3 Because your love is better than life,
my lips will glorify you.
GOD’S love for us, is even better then life…… Meditate on that for a few minutes and feel the love of CHRIST enter into your heart and soul.
1 John 4:16
We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.
GOD says through John that GOD is love, and that we have to put our trust in his love. Let us NOT trust our own feelings or emotions, but let us trust all of the wonderful bible scriptures and promises that show just how much JESUS loves you!
So why do bad things happen to us from time to time?
Well Romans 8:28 - guarantees us that they all happen for our good, and that GOD is using all things for our good.
Here is that promise - Romans 8:28 - And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
So we learn here that GOD is causing everything that happens to work together for your good. That also includes when the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE LEAVES YOU! It also includes when you are un employed over a period of time. Even when your spouses leave you, and take your children away from you, and all other heart wrenching experiences. GOD is going to use all of these experiences for your GOOD. We have to stand strong on bible promises such as these so we can hold on to JESUS during the terrible storms of life and make it through the storms holding tightly onto GOD’S LOVE FOR US.
Don’t look at your circumstances, look at GOD’S PROMISES. Don’t look at what your thinking or feeling, look to JESUS and the incredible amount of love he has for you. A love so deep, so wide, so long it cannot even be measured!!!!!!!!!!
Do you have any idea how many times the words - UNFAILING LOVE are mentioned in the bible? Try counting them and find out! GOD’S love is UN failing, it will never fail you, never leave you, never forsake you. You can trust that JESUS loves you.
Oh yes people, JESUS does love you, and there is nothing, not a single thing that you could ever do to make JESUS stop loving you………. Nothing in all of creation can stop JESUS from loving you with a love that goes beyond the universes.
I leave you with one last beautiful scripture that should help you to feel the love that GOD has for you more and more in your heart and souls…………..
Love, your brother Garrett
Deut - 7:12 - 12 If you pay attention to these laws and are careful to follow them, then the LORD your God will keep his covenant of love with you, as he swore to your forefathers. 13 He will love you and bless you and increase your numbers. He will bless the fruit of your womb, the crops of your land—your grain, new wine and oil—the calves of your herds and the lambs of your flocks in the land that he swore to your forefathers to give you. 14 You will be blessed more than any other people; none of your men or women will be childless, nor any of your livestock without young. 15 The LORD will keep you free from every disease. He will not inflict on you the horrible diseases you knew in Egypt, but he will inflict them on all who hate you.