Do You Want To Marry




Child of GOD,
 are you sure you want to get married?






Why is that so hard for us children of GOD to understand?


Single children of GOD, Paul said it was more blessed to be single than to be married!


Here is the scripture I am talking about → 


1st Cor 7:38 - So the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better. 




I know I have prayed for a wife probably 5000 times, no joking I have.  I have begged JESUS for a wife. Especially during those dark nights of sadness, loneliness and depression! Or even might I say during those terrible nights of battling against lust.


Here is one of the problems. The world, the media, the movies, song and most music,TV  and many magazines are all pounding on us constantly to find the opposite sex, or to think about the opposite sex, or to obsess on the opposite sex. This world is bombarding us children of GOD to focus on and obsess on the opposite sex.


satan is using movies, music, and TV to assault us children of GOD on the topic of trying to find the opposite sex hoping that once we get a new friend to date, that terrible loneliness and depression will finally go away. Satan is deceiving us into thinking that once we get a new girlfriend/fiancee'/ wife or husband, that the terrible lust we battle against will finally go away. Nothing could be farther from the truth.


I just heard Mr Houston, the leader of Hillsong Australia tell us that he was so lonely 3 years ago, that he was in a very dark time! He was suffering incredibly! Then out of nowhere, GOD sent him the perfect wife and he has children now too.




NO no no no no.............. No children of GOD, that is not the way we tackle the terrible sadness, loneliness and depression! That is NOT the way we tackle the terrible lust that attacks us from time to time.


No Mr Houston of Hillsong, no! Child of GOD, satan wants us to use the opposite sex to try to take away the sadness, loneliness and depression. This is a satanic trap, a plan set out to have us replace JESUS in our heart with a new boyfriend or girlfriend.






Now having a wife or husband is a great, GREAT goal to have. It is also very biblical in most ways too. So praise GOD that you might want a wonderful man or woman of GOD to marry. Praise GOD. But listen carefully now → 


I want to make something very clear to you, wanting a wife or husband is a fleshly goal, it is a worldly goal, it is also a selfish goal too. We must be honest about this!





When we are suffering in sadness, loneliness, depression or lust, satan wants us to fill up all of that emptiness inside of us with a new man or woman to date or marry. While GOD wants us to turn to JESUS, to his holy bible and to helping people in Christian ministry work to fill up our empty hearts, to fill up our empty souls. Do you see the differences here?


Paul said it is more blessed to be single because we have much more time for GOD and for the kingdom of GOD! Single Christians can focus almost all of their attention on JESUS, the bible and helping people in ministry work. But married people must focus most of their attention on their spouses and children. Paul made this quite clear in 1st Corinthians.


So child of GOD let me challenge you right now!




Are you sure you want to get married? Are you absolutely sure?




Now I have prayed about 5000 times for a wonderful godly wife, this is true including even last night. But I am more blessed to be single knowing JESUS in my life than I could ever ever ever ever be compared to being married. I mean Paul says this, and it is true. I have been married and single before and the single people can do so much more for the kingdom of GOD than married people could ever dream of.


Now let's be honest children of GOD. Wanting a man or woman to marry is a fleshly worldly goal.... It is NOT spiritual! Will you be honest with me and admit this?


I can be honest with you about that tonight if you can be honest with me too. It is a fleshly, worldly, somewhat selfish goal! Let me prove it to you in the next few paragraphs.





As I keep begging JESUS for a wife in my prayers, I am actually saying to JESUS -->>> You are NOT enough for me LORD.


Every time I am suffering in loneliness and depression and I cry out for a wife, I am saying - JESUS! You are NOT enough for me...... I am saying JESUS you cannot heal me alone. I am saying JESUS your not working, I need a wife to fix me, to heal me, to complete me and all of that above is completely wrong and demonic and fleshly!


Now that is satanic.... That is demonic...... That is the flesh.... That is trying to solve a spiritual problem with a human wife or husband. That is quite literally trying to replace GOD'S son JESUS with a man or woman in marriage. And I tell you the truth, that will never ever work. This is one reason why the Christian divorce rate is over 52% right now in the USA. We are trying to replace JESUS in our hearts and souls with a man or woman. That is a sure plan of failure.


When we are battling in loneliness, sadness and depression, those are emotional/spiritual problems........ Since they are emotional and spiritual problems, we want to solve them spiritually!


We want to solve the sadness and depression with JESUS, the bible and doing ministry work, NOT BY BEGGING FOR A WIFE LIKE I do quite often.


When I am suffering in loneliness, and I beg for a wife again, I am wrong, it is wrong to do that. We gotta cry out to GOD because we are under fleshly and demonic assault. We are under attack so we need to cry out to GOD for help, for grace, for mercies, for deliverance and to lead us closer to JESUS. Can any of you understand this ?


It is wrong to cry out for a wife when your under assault from loneliness and depression.....


It is wrong because GOD wants us to cling to JESUS as if our very lives depended on it. But satan wants us to turn to people to heal us. Satan wants us to turn to family members, to friends, to men, to women, to dating, to drugs and pornography too.


And right there is the war!!!


Now a godly wife or husband is a huge, HUGE HUGE BLESSING..... This is obvious! I stated this earlier in the article. Even though this is true, we do not want to try to solve the pain in our souls with men and women. We need JESUS more in our lives, more in our soul, more in our thoughts. We need the LORD and the LORD only! Sure we want a wife or husband, this is true for many of us children of GOD, but we ONLY NEED JESUS.


We do not want to try to solve the loneliness inside of us with more friends, or with a wife or husband, that is the exact opposite we want to do!





So why do we keep turning to men and women to take away the pain? Because satan and the world have bombarded us children of GOD with their propaganda since the say we were born all the way to tonight.


We want to try to punch through that terrible tormenting by praying more, by reading the bible if we can, by doing ministry work if GOD is giving us grace to help others at this time.


We want to be filled up more with JESUS and the word of GOD to fill up that terrible emptiness inside of us...


We do not want to replace JESUS' place in our hearts with a guy or girl. Now that is demonic.. That was designed by satan and most children of GOD all over the world have fallen for this satanic trap. I know I have.






I never once said in this article that wanting to be married was wrong. I said that I have prayed for a wife about 5000 times myself! I also said I have prayed thousands of times for a wonderful wife.I sure have amen.


But let us be perfectly honest. Begging GOD for a godly wife is very fleshly, it is very worldly, it is somewhat selfish too and demonic in nature. Just the whole idea of begging GOD for a wife or husband while suffering in loneliness is demonic. We should be begging GOD for more JESUS.


Let us STOP trying to replace JESUS with men and women in our hearts. It is a selfish goal. Could any of you be perfectly honest tonight and admit that with me?






CHAPTER 2 


I keep begging JESUS that I want a wife, I want a wife, I want a wife..... But why do I want a wife?

 Why?


Because of the loneliness, sadness, depression, lustful problems, wanting a companion, wanting a teammate etc etc even  wanting a baby too! I have always wanted children and children are so precious to me. But in GOD'S system here on earth, we children of GOD must be married first before having intimacy with our wives hoping for a baby. And the truth is → 


THOSE ARE ALL FLESHLY, WORLDLY, SELFISH DESIRES that I have inside of me.


If I can admit that can you admit it also?


Most of the reasons if not almost all of the reasons we want a wife or husband are ALL SELFISH! All worldly, all fleshly! Take some time to meditate on this, take some time to pray about this and you will find out that just about all of the reasons you want to get married are all selfish, fleshly and worldly reasons too.


Sure I battle against lust. I have been battling those demons for most of my entire life. I do not need a wife because I am battling against lust. I need JESUS, that is who I need.


 I need JESUS to shatter the lust inside my flesh, to kick out those demons of lust..... How on earth can getting married kick out the demons of lust? How on earth can getting married tone down my flesh? It is all just a demonic deception, that is simply all it is. How on earth can a wife help me with a battle against lust when she is battling lust herself? No children of GOD, no!




We need JESUS to shatter that loneliness by drawing closer to him. We must get JESUS living in us stronger and deeper in our hearts! Now how do we do that? We cannot! IT IS ALL GRACE! GOD MUST GIVE US THE GRACE TO DRAW CLOSER TO JESUS, THE BIBLE AND we need grace to  DO MINISTRY WORK too.


If your suffering in lust, believe me the LAST THING ON EARTH YOU NEED IS A HUSBAND OR WIFE!



But it is a worldly goal, it is a fleshly goal, it is a selfish goal of yours and mine!


Cannot we be honest about this children of GOD as we enter the end times? We want a husband because of fleshly selfish desires.


We burn with lust sometimes and all kinds of other defilement so we want to have sex. Cannot we be honest tonight? We want to have sex, it is plain and simple. This is the flesh, this is the demonic, this is our selfishness at its greatest. 





But instead of rushing into a bad marriage to have sex, what if we instead prayed for grace to draw closer to JESUS? What if we prayed for grace to start diving into the bible? What is we prayed for more grace to start doing a new kind of ministry work? I promise you this, if you go down this godly route, the lust will get shattered and you will not find yourself stuck in a terrible marriage with a man or woman that you should of NEVER married to begin this.


Think about this child of GOD → If your burning with lust and you cry out for a wife, what your really saying to GOD is → Please, please, please FATHER let me have sex, please please please....... Now that is the flesh and the demonic at its very best.




Now I never said we can overcome lust or loneliness, of course we CANNOT... Only JESUS can overcome and we need his grace to overcome too!


Paul said if your burning with lust to go get married. GOD is saying through me - if your burning with lust go get JESUS instead!


Both answers are fine, both are biblical, one of them is much much better!


Let us say that again. Paul said if your burning with lust go get married. GOD is saying -  if your burning with lust, GO GET JESUS INSTEAD! NOW STOP what your doing and think about that sentence for a while. Pray about it. Meditate on it. See if you have ears to hear what I am saying here.


Believe me, once you get married, most of your life will be dedicated to your spouse and your children! Sure the married couples can do ministry work together, we all understand this right?


But married people CANNOT even dream of working for the kingdom of GOD the way the single children of GOD can! This is what Paul said in 1st Corinthians and I can testify to this too. I have been married in the past, but I have also been single for most of my life. Once you get married, your entire life will change drastically. When you were single, JESUS and ministry work could be the focal point of your life if you so chose. But once you get married, your wife and children will be your main focal point and when this happens, your entire life just changed in the blink of an eye.


Believe me, if your battling in loneliness, sadness and lust, the last thing on earth you need is a wife or husband to marry!


So what do you need? You need more GOD!!! I need more GOD... Can you admit this with me tonight?


We do not need a wife or husband to take away the loneliness, we need to really get JESUS and the holy bible into our hearts!


If your battling in terrible lust you do not need a wife or husband. We need JESUS to teach us how to overcome this evil. These are spiritual problems and we must attack them with spiritual answers. If we try to solve these spiritual problems with a physical wife or husband, all hell will break loose into our lives and into our marriages too. This is one reason why the Christian divorce rate is over 52%.


So if your suffering in loneliness tonight, that is a sign that something is possibly wrong with your relationship with JESUS. It is NOT a sign you need a wife or husband, nothing could be farther from the truth! It is a possible sign that your relationship with JESUS is not where HE wants it to be. Or it is a sign that your thinking of bad thoughts. Or it is a sign that your under demonic attack. Or it could be a sign that GOD is using this to crush your pride by humbling you in suffering. All of these signs up above are all SPIRITUAL! Not one of them is physical. So since this is true, do not try to solve these problems by using physical means such as getting married. These have to be solved and taken care of spiritually speaking.


When we are battling against lust, that means we are under attack by bad angels. How on earth can getting married make the  evil angels go away?


Children of GOD, getting married does not make the demonic lust go away. Nothing could be farther from the truth!


Only JESUS can make the terrible lust go away...... I pray you understand this tonight!


Getting married is a huge huge blessing, but let us be straight, it is a fleshly - worldly and selfish goal!


Single child of GOD, once you get married a huge huge portion of your entire life will go to your spouse and your children all of the sudden.


So be very very very careful what your praying for child of GOD!


Are you sure you want to get married? Are you absolutely sure? You do realize your entire spiritual life will change once you get married right? I mean you have thought about this right ? You have prayed about this? You have meditated on this right ?




CHAPTER 3


You might say to me - Garrett when I get married we can do ministry work together!








But I say to you, most married couples in the USA do not do ministry work together!


I say to you that the Christian divorce rate is over 52% in the USA.


I say to you that your new spouse might not want to do ministry work! Have you even considered that before? They might not want to do the things that your dreaming about you two doing right now in your imagination. 


I say to you that your brand new spouse might fall away from the LORD for a year or two! This happens all the time people! We children of GOD are constantly falling into porn addictions, drug addictions, alcohol addictions, we are cheating on our spouses with co-workers at work or we even cheat on our spouses with other church members at church. If you do not believe me this is a nation wide epidemic, just use the internet and start studying.


I say to you, WHY ON EARTH ARE YOU WAITING TO GET MARRIED TO DO MINISTRY WORK!  I say to you, if you are not doing ministry work now while your single, you will NOT do it when you get married either!


I say to you that if you are not doing ministry work now, you will NOT do it when you get married either. You two will be too busy living the marriage life and taking care of the children and working two jobs to every worry about ministry work.



If your obsessed on the topic of getting married, you have fallen for the satanic attack! You have fallen to your fleshly desires. Nowhere in the bible does it tell us to obsess on getting married. Nowhere in the bible does GOD ask us to think about getting married all the time. Nowhere in the bible does it tell us to focus on marriage. No children of GOD, all of this and I mean ALL OF THIS is from our flesh and the demonic.


If like me, you keep begging GOD to send a wife or husband, that shows that we need JESUS MORE in our hearts, more in our souls, more in our lives!


Child of GOD. Are you sure you want to get married? Are you absolutely sure?




Ending → 




If your wanting to get married because your lonely, that is a TERRIBLE reason to go get married! We need JESUS more in our lives!


If your wanting to get married because your depressed, that is a TERRIBLE reason to get married. We need JESUS so badly!


If your wanting to get married because your friends are all married, that is a TERRIBLE reason to get married! This shows us that our hearts are in the wrong place. This shows us that we are focusing on all of the wrong things in our lives and that we need grace from GOD so badly to get our focus back on JESUS. We cannot focus on JESUS and the bible without GOD'S grace.


If your wanting to get married so you can start doing ministry work, that is a TERRIBLE reason to get married! Absolutely terrible. Get going now. Yes! Right now while your single. Start helping people child of GOD – Do NOT wait for a spouse to help people, start helping people right now and by doing this, you are now helping the kingdom of GOD to advance forward.


If your wanting to get married for financial reasons, that is a TERRIBLE reason to get married!


If your wanting to get married because your burning with lust, THAT IS BIBLICAL!!!!!!!!!! So you can pray for a spouse if you want! But wouldn't it be even better if when burning with lust we turned to JESUS, the bible and ministry work instead? Wouldn't that be so wonderful? Instead of begging GOD to send you a husband to have sex with, what if GOD sent you exceptional grace and deliverance instead from the demonic tormenting of lust?


If you want to get married to have children, PRAISE GOD!!! Having children is a wonderful goal for you to have and it is ALSO VERY BIBLICAL TOO. But lets make something clear. Wanting children is a fleshly goal. Wanting children is a selfish goal. Think about the sentence →






I WANT CHILDREN. I I I I …......... I WANT........... I WANT CHILDREN............. 




If GOD sends a wonderful person in your life to fall in love with and you want to get married, PRAISE GOD EVEN MORE!


If you always wanted to get married and GOD sent you a wonderful child of GOD to get married too, praise GOD! But do not be fooled. That is still a selfish and fleshly goal.


Watch out, if your hurting terribly this weekend in loneliness and your begging for a wife or husband, that a satanic trap!


Or if your suffering in terrible depression this weekend and your crying out for a husband, watch out, your actually trying to replace JESUS with another man who has a 52% chance of divorcing you. YET JESUS WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU, NOT NOW, NOT EVER. Be real real careful here.




Child of GOD! Are you sure you want to get married? Are you absolutely sure?


Wow we need JESUS, wow! We have been brainwashed to obsess on getting a wife or husband to solve our sadness, loneliness and depression.



But if your wanting to get married because your sad, lonely, depressed, lustful, or you need financial help, OH BOY WATCH OUT!!!



Who did the brainwashing job on us? Our flesh does, the bad angels do and the world did from the time we were born all the way to tonight.




CONCLUSION → 







So if you want to get married, you better make darn sure it is for all the right reasons!


Now I know just about all of the reasons I want to get married are fleshly, worldly, demonic and selfish. Would you admit that too about your own goals of getting married?


Get a pen and paper. And with 100000% honestly, write down the reasons why you want to get married.


I would like to challenge all of you now. Please try to find 1 single spiritual reason to get married? JUST 1?


Come on children of GOD, I am challenging you right now. Can you find even 1 single spiritual reason to get married?


You want a baby? Praise GOD that is wonderful, but that is fleshly and selfish.


You want to be able to have sex? OK praise GOD because GOD designed sex but that is fleshly and selfish too and quite possibly even demonic if your under demonic attack of lust.


You want a companion? You want a real teammate like I do too? Praise GOD but that is fleshly and worldly too! Why? Because we already have JESUS! JESUS is suppose to be our true teammate. JESUS is suppose to be our true companion.


You want to do ministry work with your spouse? You should be doing it already as a single person! If your not doing it now, you wont do it when you get married either.


You want someone to cook dinner with ? Yeah me too!! I love cooking together... But that is worldly, fleshly and a selfish goal too.


You want the loneliness to go away? Yeah me too!!!! But that is also darkness in us, that is us wanting to replace JESUS with a guy or girl in our heart and soul.


You say you want someone to love? So do I! But that someone to love is JESUS. We gotta try to fall in love with JESUS first, then possibly pray for a person to marry later. Later after our spiritual life is going better.


You say you want to practice loving someone unconditionally? Why not practice this on JESUS, friends, family, co-workers and people in general? Why not practice this on your co-workers who stab you in the back? Or why not practice this on your friends who hurt you, who turn against you, who talk bad about you? Why not practice this on family members who hurt you, who gossiped about you, who stabbed you in the back too?




Child of GOD! Are you sure you want to get married? Are you absolutely sure?




Sincerely, your brother Garrett




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