I Must Have A Boyfriend or Girlfriend!
(Uh Oh) - Bondage!!!!!
 

Living in the Bondage of having to have someone in your life at all times, can be just as bad as living in a
 Prison Cell!!!


 


I have been speaking to Christian people located all over the world for quite a while now. If there is one thing I have noticed, and one thing only, the Christian men, women and teenagers seem to be almost obsessed on one SINGLE TOPIC. I am here to tell you that this one single topic is NOT JESUS, it is NOT the bible and it is NOT their own salvation in Heaven for eternity.

 

Let me share with you now what this ONE single topic is that the Christian people are dwelling on day and night.

 
It is ->>>

 

THE OPPOSITE SEX & DATING!!!



As I speak to people everyday, they constantly want to talk about how to find a boyfriend or girlfriend, or why the LORD has NOT sent them a boyfriend or girlfriend yet, and on and on and on.


Many of them have some deep resentment against GOD because the LORD had not sent a special person into their lives yet, and they cannot not understand why. Many Christian people are even angry at GOD because they have been praying for a boyfriend or girlfriend and the LORD has not sent one yet. So resentment builds up in their heart towards JESUS, and it slowly eats away and harms their relationship with JESUS.


JESUS has been teaching me himself that (I want to be madly in love with him first, in a fiery, passionate, intimate and hot relationship, before I ever try to seek out a woman)!


(Now I did not know this when I was younger, and I made mistake after mistake myself too), but I want to share with you now in this article what the LORD wants his Christian body to learn.


What The LORD has been teaching me I also want to share with some of his Christian body to help them to break the BONDAGE of having to be with the opposite sex. Another way to describe this could be – Addiction to relationships.


I explain it like this -->> When we Christian people feel inside of us that we must have a girlfriend, or that we need to have a boyfriend, or that we are dying to have a girlfriend -->>


PEOPLE, THAT IS BONDAGE.

 

Bondage never EVER comes from the LORD for HE is Holy and Righteous and Perfect.


I know many Christian people say to me – Garrett, that wanting and needing a boyfriend is from the LORD, I know it is from GOD, I just know it. And once they start talking like that, they have already made up their minds and it is almost useless to try to preach to them any longer on this subject.


I am here to tell you that CHRIST came to set us free from the bondage of darkness and satan. If you feel that you must have a boyfriend, or if you feel that you have to have a boyfriend or husband,

 

THAT IS DARKNESS!! THAT IS BONDAGE!!


That is not from the LORD, and that is actually coming from either satan himself, or the flesh man inside of you, or it is coming from the emptiness and loneliness deep inside of your heart and soul.


This BONDAGE is NOT coming to you from JESUS.






 

This is what JESUS wants of all of his Christian body to do, men and women, teens too -->>>

 

First we want to make sure that we are truly madly in love with JESUS, and that we are on fire for him before we ever, EVER – EVERRRRRR think of praying for a brand new person to enter our lives.


A - There is a female friend that I have on Face-book. It seems like every few weeks she changes her status from single, to in a relationship, back to single again and back to a relationship. And she does this over and over again.


We cannot replace JESUS in our heart and soul with a man or woman, this is EXACTLY what satan wants us to do, and it will bring us into destruction for sure!!!!!



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There is a very deep and very painful emptiness inside of a large portion of the world wide Christian body at this time, and instead of filling up this emptiness with JESUS CHRIST and the Holy Bible, they are trying to get rid of this pain and hurting by seeking to find a boyfriend or girlfriend whom they think will heal them.

In all actuality, these Christian people are trying to fill up the spot in their heart and soul where JESUS is suppose to be living, with a man or woman instead.


They are literally trying to replace CHRIST.


That emptiness and pain inside of our heart and soul is exactly where the LORD JESUS wants to be living. But, instead of us turning to JESUS to heal our empty soul, many in the Christian body are turning to men, women and sex instead.


This article is being written to tell you, that this could spell out DOOM & DESTRUCTION for the Christian people who are trying to fill up the emptiness and pain inside of themselves with a man or woman, instead of with THE CHRIST.


There is no man or woman on earth who can heal you! That is absolutely impossible. Those same men and women cannot even heal their own lives, so how on earth could they possibly heal yours?

 

They cant!!!


Only JESUS can heal a shattered heart, and only JESUS can put back together a shattered life and he will!!!!!

 

Just ask him too and watch and see!



If HE can do it for me, HE can do it for you!!!



JESUS created his children to need him in a close, personal, intimate and fiery relationship with HIMSELF. JESUS did this on purpose, and when we try to go at life without abiding in the LORD and the Holy Bible, this is EXACTLY when that emptiness and pain starts to build up in our heart and soul.


Satan knows full well that if he can get the children of GOD to focus on and dwell on the opposite sex, that we are not in big, BIG trouble.


I would even go so far as to say, that satan's number 1 plan to destroy a born again believer, is to get that person to focus on and obsess on the opposite sex!


This helped to destroy the Jew's in the Old Testament time and time again, and it is working even better now in this modern era.

 


B -  I met a young man who was also a believer in the LORD about 9 months ago. We had some wonderful Christian talks on how to abide in the LORD, the importance of reading the bible, prayer, worshiping JESUS and even talks about what it means to Christian date. Or in other words, how to date a Christian woman safely in this day and age. The HOLY GHOST was really blessing us with some wonderful talks.


When I met this young man, whom was about 22 years old at that time, he also had the problem of thinking about dating the opposite sex far too much. I exchanged many emails and actual telephone talks with him, explaining to him the importance of getting our thoughts and minds off of women and dating, and getting them on JESUS and the bible. After each talk, he totally understood what the LORD was asking him to do. The problem was, he could not stop thinking about, or obsessing about having a new girlfriend in his life. Because of this, we spent many phone calls talking about this very topic. He seemed to be doing OK for a while, but then one time I noticed that I had not heard from him for quite a while. I had realized in the spirit that he was not doing good, so I sent him a strict email stating that I wanted to talk to him soon. We made an agreement to talk later that night. When he called me on the phone I realized that my suspicions were correct, he was not doing good at all.


We talked on the phone for a little while, and he told me in a very serious voice that he just CANNOT UNDERSTAND why GOD wont give him a girlfriend.
 

He went on to say that --->>>>

If GOD wont give him a girlfriend, that he does not want to follow GOD any longer! Or he said something like, if GOD wont give him a girlfriend, he does not want to love GOD any longer.


Well, he caught me by surprise with that. I was in shock for about 3 seconds, and then the HOLY GHOST showed me what to do.


I told him, I was going to get a pen and paper and I would be right back. I told the young man that in the few minutes I would be away from the phone, I wanted him to think about very carefully all of the important reasons why he wanted a girlfriend in the first place, he said OK great!


I got my pen and paper, and I asked him if he was ready to tell me all of these really important reasons why he wanted a girlfriend so badly!


Well, he stuttered for a while, and he was having a lot of trouble even thinking of one reason, let alone four reasons.


I said to him – come on, tell me honestly why you want a girlfriend so badly. He stuttered again and could not come up with a single reason.


I asked him a third time real nicely, come on brother, give me a few of the really important reasons why you feel you want a girlfriend so badly. He was silent, and he could not think of a single thing to tell me to write down on the pen and paper.



So I tried something new with him.



I myself being that I am a middle aged man, decided that I would help him think of a few reasons why he might want a girlfriend.


I said to him, well, how about wanting a girlfriend for the purpose of having a close relationship. He said yeah, that is one of the reasons, and now he started to use his imagination a little bit.


I said OK, can you think of a second reason why you want a girlfriend so badly?


He said – how about wanting a girlfriend so we could hang out together. I said OK brother, I will write that one down too.


I went on to say, can you think of a third reason now?


He thought for a few minutes, stuttered a lot, and came up with – I want someone to care about and someone to cherish. I said ok, I will write down that you want someone to care about, and someone to cherish.


I asked him, can you think of one last reason?


He said yes, I want to live with someone.


OK, I wrote that one down too.


I wrote down the four reasons he wanted a girlfriend on my clean sheet of paper with a line going down the middle of it.


I said brother, do you have any more reasons why you want a girlfriend that I should write down before we continue? He stuttered a lot, and was silent a lot, and after about 3 minutes of this, I said OK, I guess we are done now right? He said yes, those are the reasons I want a girlfriend.


Here is an example of how the paper looked when he was couldn't think of any more reasons.


1). Close friendship.


2).  Someone to hang out and someone to do stuff with.


3).  Someone to care about, and someone to cherish


4).  He wants to live with someone.


Those were the four reasons he came up with why he wanted a girlfriend so badly. In fact, badly enough to where he was willing to leave GOD permanently if the LORD did not give him a girlfriend soon.


Now, some of you looking at the above list might think that those are some very shallow reasons to leave GOD forever, yet others of you reading this article might agree completely with those 4 reasons.


I want you to remember that we men of GOD want to be weak to the weak, and strong to the strong.


This was a very young man who was hurting real badly inside of his soul. In fact the pain was getting so bad, that he was even willing to leave JESUS if he didn't get a girlfriend soon.


I said to him – OK, the list is done, now I want to go over with you all four topics that we wrote down together very slowly.


So we started at number one. I said brother, you want a close friend right. Someone that you can talk to, someone that you can share things with, someone that you could contact day or night whenever you felt sad or lonely? He said yes, that is exactly what I want as he got a little excited!


I said brother, cant you see that this is EXACTLY what JESUS wants from you. JESUS want you to talk to him day and night; this is very important to the LORD and he enjoys this very much! JESUS created you to share your life with him, and that means sharing with him every day and night. When you feel sad or lonely, JESUS is right by your side just waiting and wanting to hear from you. JESUS wants to hear Not only the big things going on in your life, but the small things too. You are very important to the LORD and he is right by your side day and night just waiting to hear a hello from you. JESUS wants very, VERY much for you two to be the best of friends.


When I was done going over topic number one with him, he was speechless because he was starting to view things a little differently now. There was a little bit of silence on the phone for a few seconds, and I asked if we could move on to number two now, he said yes of course!


OK brother, number two says that you want someone to hang out with and someone to do stuff with, right? He again said – Exactly!!!


I said, remember all of the long talks we have had the last few months? Remember how we went over that JESUS is always with you day and night and he will never leave you, he will never forsake you. Brother, you can hang out with JESUS and do stuff with JESUS anytime you want 7 days a week because he will never leave your side. He is the best friend that you never knew you had all of these years. I said, you are not alone, and you have never been alone not even for a single minute of your life. I went on to tell him that JESUS has been with you from the time you were born in your baby crib, all the way to tonight just waiting for you to start spending time with him. You can take JESUS wherever you go, whether it is work, the store, going to get gasoline for your car or whatever you might be doing any given day. I said brother, cant you see, your topic number two is exactly what JESUS wants you to do with him?


Well, if I remember correctly, he was again a little quiet, while he was contemplating things that were being said on the telephone.


I said – brother, can we start with your third reason why you want a girlfriend? He said sure.


OK brother, number three - you said that you want someone to care about, or you want someone that you can cherish. By this time, I think he was starting to get an idea of where I was going to go next. I said, why not fall madly in love with JESUS? I mean why not? JESUS loves you, JESUS already cares about you deeply, JESUS cherishes you! Wouldn't HE be the perfect person to want to care about? Wouldn't JESUS be the perfect person to want to cherish?


He was quiet here!!!


I told my younger brother on the phone something like – Well, what if you care about a woman, but she does not care about you? Or what if you start to cherish a woman but she does not cherish you? I said that would be terrible to go through. That situation would hurt your feelings very badly!


I explained to him on the phone that JESUS loves you very much, and he will never leave you, he will never lie to you, he will never cheat on you, he will never commit adultery on you, and that he would always cherish you even until the end of eternity. I said can't you see brother, it is much smarter to first care about JESUS, and cherish JESUS and fall madly in love with JESUS than it is to with a woman whom could hurt your heart very badly if she leaves you.


He was quiet on the phone again while he was trying to take all of this new information in.


I said to him - Ok lets go over the last item written down on the paper now.


I said brother, number four says that you want someone to live with. He said yeah that would be great. I said well did you want to have sex? He said no, not at all! I just want some companionship. I asked him again, are you sure this is not about sex, he said Sir, that is not what I am looking for. I just want someone around, or I just want someone to be with me, to live with me, to share my life with.


As you can see here people, the young man was extremely lonely, and he had very little love inside of his heart and soul. This young man was trying to get healing from a girlfriend instead of getting completely healed by the POWER and LOVE of THE LORD GOD.


I went ahead and spoke to him for about 5 minutes on the last topic, of course using the exact same strategy that JESUS is always with us, he is always right by our side, and that he wants fellowship with us very, VERY MUCH.


We talked for about another 30 minutes, on how to watch carefully what we single men of GOD are thinking about, and on how to push out all bad thoughts of women, dating and sex out of our minds constantly day and night.


I think we ended the long talk with the idea that he was really understanding what we spoke about on the phone that night. We then prayed for about 10 minute together and we said goodnight.


As a few days went by, I thought that the seeds that were planted inside of him were starting to grow a little bit.


About a month later, I realize again that I had not heard from him, so I emailed him and asked him to call me. When I got him on the phone, I quickly realize that he was still focusing on and obsessing on wanting to have a girlfriend and that his walk with the LORD and the bible were going very badly.


I had no idea that that phone call would be the last time I would ever hear from him again.

 

I did email him from time to time to encourage him, I sent him some wonderful presents for Christmas, but I never heard from him again.


I am still praying for this young man each night when I do my prayer sessions.


A friend of his told me many months later that he was still struggling in his life, and in his relationship with his parents and of course that would automatically mean he was struggling greatly with THE LORD.


Brother's and sister's, can you now see just how dangerous it is for us to focus on and think about the (opposite sex and dating) day and night?


The opposite sex is satan's number one attack against us men and women of GOD. He knows that if he can get us to put our heart and souls into thinking about men and women, it will be no time at all when he will have us filled up completely with depression, sadness, loneliness and despair.


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Some of you reading this might be thinking now

Why is that emptiness and pain inside of us in the first place?


The answer is very simple. JESUS created us to know him, love him, have fellowship with him, and for us to work on having a fiery and passionate relationship with HIMSELF. When we do this, we have the LOVE, PEACE and JOY of the LORD inside of our heart and soul.

And when that happens, you will NOT be worrying so much about finding a date for this weekend, or even worrying about finding someone to marry even. If you are truly and seriously abiding in the LORD, marriage wont even cross your mind much anymore as you serve the LORD day after day and carry your cross.


When we do NOT do this, when we do not spend time with JESUS, and we do not have a fiery and passionate relationship with HIM, that is when the pain and emptiness enters our soul and all hell starts to break loose in our lives. That is when we can expect loneliness, sadness, depression, despair and even thoughts of suicide! I have had some absolutely terrible valley experiences when I took my eyes and heart off of JESUS.......... Wow is that dangerous to do!!!


Without JESUS in our lives, there is NO love whatsoever. JESUS is the one who fills up our heart and soul with HIS LOVE!



JESUS is the GREAT I AM.


JESUS is ALL WE NEED.


JESUS can fill up our heart & soul COMPLETELY!



Now people, I am not saying that wanting a spouse to marry is bad, OF COURSE NOT!!!

 

This article is about men and women of GOD who are NOT spending enough time with JESUS and the bible. People who are trying to fill up that emptiness in their heart and soul with the opposite sex, and NOT WITH JESUS!!!


There are tons of married men and women who even replace JESUS in their hearts and souls with their spouses and children. JESUS said that we must LOVE HIM MORE than our spouses, more than our children.


So if you are married, continue to read the entire article and remember that married people are doing this too. They are completely replacing JESUS and the bible with their spouses, and yet the Church wonders why the Christian Divorce rate is over 50%.


We cannot replace JESUS in our heart and soul with anything, not with the opposite sex, not with our children, not with gaming and pornography, NOT WITH ANYTHING.


IF WE DO, ALL HELL IS GOING TO RAIN DOWN IN OUR LIVES, AND IN OUR SOULS!!!!!!

 

We cannot, and we MUST NOT do that! Replacing JESUS in our heart and soul is actually a satanic act. And quite often satan could even be behind us doing this very such thing.





 

As I speak to people every single day, many times single woman might take notice of me. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen single women email me constantly, and be so energetic to email back and forth, and be so willing to talk on the phone. But, as soon as they find out that I am NOT available, it is scary how fast they disappear! I could not even describe how many times I have seen this happen to me, and I am not that good looking lol.


We must not focus on dating, we must not focus on the opposite sex to heal our broken hearts, to heal our broken lives, to heal the emptiness in our souls.


WE CANNOT TRY TO USE OUR SPOUSES TO HEAL OUR EMTPINESS EITHER, EVEN THAT WILL FAIL GREATLY!!! OUR LORD IS A JEALOUS GOD AND NOTHING IS GOING TO HEAL YOUR HEART AND SOUL BUT JESUS AND THE BIBLE. And I mean nothing!!!!!!!!!


I tell you the truth, most of these women don't even realize how easy it is to see what they are doing. They are so energetic at the beginning to talk, they have so much enthusiasm to email back and forth etc etc etc – But the second you tell them, that you are not available, they completely disappear as if they never even existed! This has been going on for yearssssssssss with me. I love my Christian brother's and sister's so much, I want them to be free in CHRIST from this terrible satanic bondage.


THIS IS NOT WHAT GOD IS CALLING US TO DO, OR WHO GOD WANTS US TO BE.

 


OH LORD SAVE US!!!!



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We must get our minds off of the opposite sex and get our hearts back on the LORD and HIS Bible where they belong.



Only in GOD will we be made whole and nobody else, not now, not ever!!!





Some of you might be thinking here, well (Garrett), how do I know when I am ready for dating. That is a great question and let me share with you right now exactly what JESUS shared with me.



Here are some short answers because THE LORD will have a much longer article on Christian dating finished on my site very shortly!!!


  1. If you are NOT praying day and night, you are NOT ready for dating.

  2. If you are Not reading the bible on a regular basis, you are NOT ready for dating.

  3. If you are Not worshiping the LORD at home, or in the car, or at work or school on a regular basis, you are Not ready for dating.

  4. If you are Not madly, and I say madly in love with JESUS, then you are Not ready for dating.

  5. If you are NOT on fire for JESUS, then you are NOT ready for dating either.

  6. If you cannot say that JESUS is by far your best friend, you are probably Not ready for dating.


In other words, if you don't madly love JESUS, what makes you think you will be able to madly fall in love with another person who is a sinner, and far from perfect like THE LORD is?


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Or if you are NOT praying and reading the bible on a full time regular basis, what makes you think that you will be able to lead your new boyfriend or girlfriend to reading the bible and JESUS?


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Or if you are Not on fire for JESUS, what good is it having a boyfriend or girlfriend if JESUS is about to spit you out of his mouth because you are (LukeWarm) for him. How would getting a boyfriend or girlfriend all of the sudden put you on fire for JESUS?

 

It wont, and cannot, it never does, and it always failssssssssssss!!!

 

Or if you are NOT best friends with JESUS at this time in your life, what makes yo think you could be best friends with someone else? I tell you straight, it is much, MUCH MUCHHHHH easier to be friends with JESUS than it is to be friends with any other man or woman on planet earth.

 

BY THE WAY – FOR YOU MARRIED PEOPLE – IF YOU ARE NOT DOING ALL OF THE ABOVE, WHAT GOOD IS IT EVEN BEING MARRIED IF YOU ARE ICE COLD FOR JESUS?


What good is it having a husband or wife if you are not reading the bible, or if you are not on fire for JESUS, or if you are not worshiping the LORD of all lords, KING of all kings JESUS?


*Are you men and women now starting to see where we are constantly going wrong?


 

*Are you also starting to see how satan can get us sidetracked?


 

We must first get our lives centered on the LORD and the bible, then and only then are we actually ready to share our love with someone else in marriage. Then and only then are we actually ready to help lead our spouses to JESUS and the bible and falling madly in love with JESUS themselves. Then and only then are we actually ready to be best friends with our spouse.


Too many of you married Christian people are NOT best friends with each other. Why?


Because many of you bypassed JESUS and the bible first, and went right into relationships without even knowing how to love, or without knowing how to be best friends.


We cannot bypass JESUS and the bible and go straight to dating. That is what satan wants us to do! That is what the flesh man inside of us wants us to do, That is what the world wants us to do! And that is exactly what the world does and it leads to divorce, crying, tears, adultery, cheating, fighting, arguing, hitting, abuses of all kinds, pornography in the marriage, drinking and gambling in the marriage and on and on and on!!!!


All of this will lead straight to DESTRUCTION.

 




What we are really seeing in the Christian body is a lack of love. Many Christian men and women have a lack of love inside of them, and instead of going to CHRIST to fill themselves up with love, they are bypassing JESUS and going to men and women instead.


Once again, this is a strategy that leads straight to destruction.



C - I met an older lady about eight years ago at a prayer meeting, she was approximately 58 years old at that time. This was just one of those times when GOD allowed two people to meet for some very important reasons. Even during our prayer meetings, she started slowly sharing with me how lonely she was. She also told me that she had never really had a boyfriend for most of her entire life, let alone being married. She wondered if maybe she was being punished by GOD for her past sins.


We slowly over the period of a few years, talked once a week on the phone about these important issues. She was so lonely, she often felt like dying or wanted to die. Many times during our conversations she would break out crying in tears because GOD had never sent her a person to love and marry yet.


I spoke to her quite often about trying to get closer to JESUS, or trying to fall in love with JESUS, but she was not ready to listen yet. In other words, her heart and soul were not ready to hear that type of encouragement. All she wanted to focus on was how to meet a man, or why wont GOD send a spouse to her etc etc etc.


As the years passed by, it was very sad to see phone call after phone call end up the exact same way.


 

Years passed by now, and she asked me if I would help her to put up her profile in a few dating sites on the Internet. I told her of course I would help. I would go to her Condo where she was living, and use her computer to do the tedious work of answering all of the dating site questions so we could put up her profile for other men to see.


She joined up site after site, but there was never anyone for her to meet. A few men now and then would say hello, but it never really worked out between them.


She would call me about six months later, and ask me if I could help her to put her profile in another site now. So I would drive down there, and we would go through the entire tedious process again of answering all of the dating site questions to fill out her profile. But once again, there was nobody for her.


During this time she was extremely depressed! She had zero love inside of her. If I tried to talk to her about falling in love with JESUS, she would snap at me, get angry, and raise her voice to take command over our conversation and some terrible arguments happened because of this.


What happened is, because she would attack me so strongly verbally speaking that is, I had to almost stop preaching to her completely.

 

Another year went by, and she called me on the phone to ask if I would help her to put her profile in another dating site. I told her I really did not think that would be wise, and maybe we should just simply wait on JESUS to send a person for you to fall in love with.


Well, she asked me many more times real nicely, so I told her OK, I will come on by and let us try again.


I put her entire profile into another dating site not really believing that JESUS would send her a person to marry.


 

After that, about a year went by, and during that year she had no success at all on all of the dating sites that she was in. I could not talk to her about spending more time with JESUS, because she would lose her temper and attack me! so I kind of kept a little more quiet on the phone now with her, and decided to just simply allow the LORD to work in her life.


About six months later, she called me on the phone and asked me if I would help her once again by putting her profile into the same dating site that we did about two years earlier. I told her real nicely no this time. I talked to her nicely and told her let us just wait on JESUS and do the best we can with the LORD every day. But she persisted! She asked me over and over again if I could please help her this one last time, just this one last time Garrett. So I gave in, and I drove to where she was living, to put her back into this dating site again on the Internet. I went through all of the questions again one by one and when her complete profile was finished, we held hands and prayed that the LORD would send her a Christian man to marry. I prayed for the LORD JESUS to send her a wonderful Christian man with many great Christian attributes about him.


A few days passed by, and she was getting some responses from a few men, but there were really no matches for her yet. She was extremely depressed, sad and lonely, and she still up to that time had not tried to fill up this loneliness with JESUS!


A few more weeks passed by, and I learned that there was a man that she was speaking with through the dating sites email system. She told me that they had now exchanged phone numbers and were going to go on a date in a few days from now. Well, I gave her a little bit of advice for the date, and we praised GOD to the best I can remember!


After a few dates with this man, she called me on the phone and told me about how their friendship was going, and she seemed to be very excited about him. Now I assumed that this man was a hard core Christian, because I had talked to my friend over and over again about the importance of only wanting to date a real Christian man who knows the LORD and the bible.


A few more weeks passed by, and we talked on the phone about how their new friendship was going. She went on to say that she loved him, and that everything was going very well. So once again, we ended the phone call praising GOD.


Now it happens!

 

About 2 weeks later, I received a letter in my mailbox from my same friend. It was an invitation to their wedding. They had gone on about 5-6 dates, and at that time, they had known each other about six weeks I think when the wedding invitation showed up.


I read the wedding invitation in pure amazement and disgust. Why? Because I knew that at that time, they should NOT get married. I had a very bad feeling inside of me about those two getting married. She never called me on the phone to talk about marrying this man, she never called me to get advice, she never called me to tell me anything about him whatsoever. She ran off in secret, and they both decided to get married. Now why was that so strange? Because we usually talked all the time about all issues in her life.


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I did not go to the wedding, and she never even called me to ask me if I was going to show up at the church. She literally hid from me during the time that she dated this man, till the time that they got married.

I will stop here for a few seconds to explain what happened with my Christian sister here.

 

She was not abiding in the LORD JESUS, so of course she had a total and complete lack of love in her soul. There was no peace in her, and there was no joy in her. Instead of going to CHRIST for her love, peace and joy, she constantly focused on and dwelt on the opposite sex to heal her shattered soul. Even though I talked to her about this on multiple occasions, she just did not want to listen, or she could not, or maybe even satan was blocking her spiritual ears from hearing what I was saying. So instead of getting her heart and soul filled up with the LOVE OF JESUS, she ran off and married a complete stranger.


Now as of tonight, two years after they got married, this is what happened!


She ended up marrying a non believer. Can you believe it? She married a man who does Not believe in JESUS or the bible or anything else for that matter.


He is also an Alcoholic!


These are just some of the bad decisions I have seen Christian men and women make because they are trying to bypass the LORD. I should know, I have made a ton of bad decisions too when I was not keeping my eyes on the LORD and HIS bible!!!


For the last two years, she has been calling me on a regular basis because she is living in pure hell. She calls me constantly after he goes to sleep, to share how difficult her marriage and her life is going now. She does realize now that she sinned greatly by marrying a non believer, and she is repentant, and she is very sorry too. When they got married, she did not know that he was an Alcoholic either. They got married so fast, they didn't even have time to get to know each other, let alone much of anything else either. She is learning her lesson the very, VERY HARD WAY, and the whole point of this article is hopefully to help a few people avoid these terrible mistakes.


Sure we do pray for her husband to be saved every single night, and yes we are praying for all of the other wonderful things to happen in her marriage to, and YES she DOES LOVE him, and I love him too as a brother, but she has been living in pure hell for the last two years, and for the bible believing woman, there is no way out of this.


Their marriage can get to be so bad at times, I want you people reading this to be very afraid! Be very afraid of replacing JESUS with a man or woman. Be very afraid of trying to fill up that lack of love inside of your heart and soul with the opposite sex, IT WILL NEVER WORK!!!!!!!!!!


We must get right with JESUS first, in a close, fiery, passionate and intimate relationship before we ever, EVER EVERRRR THINK of dating the opposite sex, or getting married.


Here are some more true stories. Because of all of the ministry work I do on the Internet, many times I come across a new Christian man where we hit it off really well. We usually end up emailing each other back and forth, than a short time later we exchange phone numbers. From there we would call each other on the phone, and I would usually pray with him, or pray for his family, and we would just generally discuss all of the different things going on in life. In other words, we were becoming friends!!!!!!


Well this is what happens in friend after friend that I meet.


Usually a short time later, my friend would meet a brand new girlfriend. I noticed that time after time, as each friend would get a new girlfriend, they would start to contact me less and less and less. In the beginning when this first started happening, I was not sure what was going on. But as of writing this article tonight, I now know exactly what is going on. These men that I use to be friends with, would completely obsess on their brand new girlfriends that they just met.


Here is how it would usually work.


D - My friend would meet a new girlfriend, and he would call on the phone to talk about her constantly. Even when I would call my friends on the phone to see if maybe they wanna pray tonight, they would quickly get the talk aggressively going on the topic of their new girlfriends.


Even when I would call my friend or friends to talk about some hardcore bible scriptures, they would still get the conversation on the topic of their new girlfriends as fast and aggressively as they possibly can.


*Now I want you to know that I do not believe these men even know that they do this. This is how obsessed we Christian men and women can become over the opposite sex!

 

Low and behold, as each friend gets a new girlfriend, I hear from them less and less and less until even a simple email seems almost impossible for them.


I have had one friend for about 11 years now, he will not talk to me when he is at his girlfriends house, or when he is with her. This is a rule he has, he will not talk to me if he is with his girlfriend in any way shape of form.............



What can be so beautiful between two Christian people, can also turn out to be so evil and tie the man and woman down in terrible BONDAGE!!!


 

OK PEOPLE!!!!!!

I COULD LITERALLY PUT HUNDREDS OF REAL LIFE HORROR STORIES IN HERE!

*But I will end this article with one last real life story*

 

This true story is so complex, so intricate, so deep, so terrible, I am only going to type a very short and simple version of the real life hell that this young has lived through in her young life so far.


E - I met a 19 year old young lady on the Internet about six years ago one night when I was doing some preaching in a Internet chat site. Because her problems were so deep and so complex, I quickly got her on the telephone so we could ask the LORD to give her a good message through me. She agreed, and we exchanged phone numbers right away.


I still remember the very first few talks we had many years ago. The HOLY GHOST was so strong, encouraging her through the telephone conversation to turn her life over to JESUS, to give her entire heart over to THE LORD. I talked to her for hours and hours and hours about the destruction that will come from us focusing our lives on the opposite sex. She always seemed to understand while we were on the phone talking, but a few days later she would call again and I would realize that she was not grasping what the LORD wanted of her. She would go right back trying to get her life healed in anyway whatsoever besides JESUS.


I explained to her in over 1000 phone calls during a 5 year period how all GOD wants you to do, is to abide in HIS SON JESUS and the bible. But just like many, MANY other Christian people, she thought the only way to get rid of that terrible pain inside of her soul, and the only way to get some love in her life was with having a boyfriend that would eventually lead to a husband.


SHE JUST WANTED SOMEONE TO LOVE HER SO BADLY!!!!!

 

From the beginning, I talked to her over and over again on how the LORD can heal you sister, how JESUS can hold you real tight, how JESUS can help you to feel better right away. But, for whatever reasons, she was not able to understand this at that time in her life.


During the early years, she never really did abide in JESUS and the bible much at all, and she suffered a thousand deaths emotionally speaking. The emotional bondage inside of her was as bad as any I have ever seen BESIDES myself when I was younger.


Phone call after phone call, email after email over and over again I spoke to her about how important it is to be abiding in JESUS and the bible.


For whatever reasons, she could not get her mind off of finding a boyfriend, or getting love from a man in a relationship. Maybe she was too young at the time, maybe satan was blocking her from hearing this wonderful preaching throughout the years I preached to her. Only GOD himself could know what the problem really was!


Now remember people, this is a very, VERY short version of what actually happened. The truth is, I could write an entire book on this young girls life.


So, to finish up the story, a few years ago, she met a young man her age, who was also a Christian man, and they ended up getting pregnant, and they ran off and got married.


They got married without anyone's permission, without anyone knowledge of the situation, without them telling their Pastor about it, let alone asking his opinion on the matter. Even the grooms mother was against the marriage.


They just flat out ran off and did a shot gun marriage in secret.

 

She was pregnant, I guess they both decided that it would be better to get married real fast since a baby was already coming.


Well, she ended up marrying a complete stranger. Likewise, the young man didn't know anything about his brand new wife either. They were just about complete and total strangers when they got married.


About 2 months before they got married, she was calling me a few times a week to say hello. I was warning her and warning her, screaming at her and screaming at her to leave the young man alone. I warned her over and over again not to marry him.


*She could not listen to me, she wasn't able to listen, her spiritual ears were completely closed.

 

She was trying to fill up the emptiness inside of her heart and soul with a man, and she was not going to listen for anyone in the universe!


They got married, the baby came a short time later, and they moved into their own apartment with their parents financial help.


And this is when all hell started breaking loose!

 

Because she was not abiding in the LORD, because she was not reading the bible enough, because she was not praying and worshiping enough, their marriage quickly, and I SAY QUICKLY fell apart.


In no time at all, Hell was breaking loose in their apartment.


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There was arguing, screaming, jealousies, controlling, abusive language, crying and tears, cutting and blood, throwing of electronics around the apartment, hitting, slapping, and shattering electronics with their fists!!!!

Yes people, satan was living right in the middle of their marriage, right in the middle of their emptiness, right in the middle of their apartment and why?

 

Because they were trying to replace the emptiness and pain inside of themselves with each other, and not with GOD'S SON JESUS.


After a few months of this terrible, terrible marriage, the husband came home one night from work at about midnight.


A vicious argument started, and the husband packed up his computer and guitar, and moved back to his moms house.


The very next day, my Christian sister whom I had been preaching to for four years at that time, packed up the newborn baby, and flew back to her mother's house in Texas.


Neither of the two young adults up to this day are abiding in the LORD or the bible at this time.


The young man has not seen his little baby for two years. He only got to spend a few months with his son before that terrible argument happened that night!


The last two years, I have been talking to both of them on the phone on a semi regular basis.


If you want to know what hell is like, if you want to know just how bad life can get without JESUS, if you want to know just how dangerous it is to replace JESUS CHRIST with the opposite sex,

It is what I have seen in their marriage the last two years while they are separated. It is pure hell!!!!!!!!


 

Do not replace JESUS in your heart and soul with anyone, not with anything.

Be afraid people, be really afraid.


 

I pray that this article will bless you greatly and lead you to a much closer relationship with JESUS.


 

I pray it will light a fire in you towards the LORD JESUS and HIS Holy Bible!


 

I pray it will really get you to start thinking about if you are even ready to date!


 

And last but not least


I pray with all of my heart and soul that the LORD JESUS HIMSELF will help you to get your thoughts and mind off of the opposite sex and everything else that is stealing your life away from GOD, from love, from peace, from joy and from the Presence of the LORD JESUS.



Love, your servant Garrett



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