Are You Thinking Of Marrying A Non Believer? Wow!! You Better Think Again!!
Are you thinking of marrying a non believer at this time in your life?
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I dedicate this article to my Christian brother’s and sister’s whom I love very much!!
Most Christian’s probably don’t realize this, but marrying a NON believer, that is someone who DOESN’T believe in CHRIST JESUS as their LORD and Savior is actually a Sin!!! that’s right, it is a SIN!
At the very end of this entire article, there is a real life testimony of a Christian woman who married a Non believing husband. Please make sure to read the testimony, I promise it will teach you a lot, and at the same time, it just know it will greatly bless you,
Listen to what Paul says
*2nd Cor 6:14 - Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? 15 What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever? 16 And what union can there be between God’s temple and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God said: “I will live in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they will be my p
eople. 17 Therefore, come out from among unbelievers, and separate yourselves from them, says the Lord. Don’t touch their filthy things, and I will welcome you. 18 And I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters,
says the Lord Almighty.”
I have been doing marriage counseling now for about 7 years on a full time basis, and I cannot even begin to tell you the horror stories I have heard when a Christian person and a NON believer get married.
I have heard over and over again from the Christian spouse how they would lead their non believing partner to CHRIST. While we would be going back and forth during our discussion they would always explain to me how they will diligently go after JESUS and the Holy Bible no matter what their spouse says, or no matter how hard their spouse tries to get them to quit JESUS……… But do you know what I found? The EXACT OPPOSITE almost always happens and GOD agrees with me!!
Look at what GOD says here
Moses had just died and now Joshua was going to take the children of GOD into the promised land -- GOD is giving basically a pep talk to HIS children the Jews with some warnings about marrying NON believers.
*Deut 7:1 - These seven nations are greater and more numerous than you. 2 When the Lord your God hands these nations over to you and you conquer them, you must completely destroy them. Make no treaties with them and show them no mercy. 3 You must NOT intermarry with them. Do NOT let your daughters and sons marry their sons and daughters, 4 for they will lead your children away from me to worship other gods. Then the anger of the Lord will burn against you, and he will quickly destroy you.
As you can see, GOD COMMANDS that we stay far away from marrying NON believers. In all of the preaching I have done all over the world via the internet, JUST ABOUT always does the NON believing spouse bring their Christian spouse down with them! And this is exactly what GOD’S Holy Bible says!!!! JESUS who loves you is only trying to guard and protect you from complete disaster and destruction coming into your life by putting these commandments in his Holy Bible for us to follow.
Here is another warning from GOD about marrying non
*Nehemiah 13:26 “Wasn’t this exactly what led King Solomon of Israel into sin?” I demanded. “There was no king from any nation who could compare to him, and God loved him and made him king over all Israel. But even he was led into sin by his foreign wives. 27 How could you even think of committing this sinful deed and acting unfaithfully toward God by marrying foreign women?”
(Foreign women - aka Non believers or women who don’t know GOD).
Now these biblical rules are for men and women. So whether your male or female, GOD warns us vehemently against marrying a non believer.
As you can clearly see here, GOD warns again that the non believing spouses will slowly wear you down and bring you into sin too. This is why the Old Testament over and over again warns GOD’S people against marrying non believers, and these commandments are repeated to us Christian’s in the New Testament too.
Here are a few of the reasons why we Christian’s are even considering marrying a NON believer in the first place!
1). Impatience!!! - You have been waiting a long time now for the LORD to send a Christian person into your life to marry. A lot of time has gone by, and you decided to take matters into your own hands kind of like how Sarah did when she had her handmaid lay with her husband Abraham. Sarah got tired of waiting for her PROMISED baby, so she decided to take matters into her own hands and bypass GOD by doing this. Likewise, the LORD didn’t send a Christian spouse to you yet, so you decided to bypass GOD and it just so happened that there were a few NON believers in your life who made it clear to you that they would love to go out on a date with you. One date led to another, and since you two were getting along so well, you just assumed that the LORD wanted you to marry this non believer. The problem is, you made a mistake, the LORD will never contradict his own Holy Bible where it forbids us to marry non believers.
2). Loneliness…………. The years have passed by, and once again the LORD has NOT yet sent to you a Christian person to marry. As the months have passed by, you started to feel more and more lonely. It just so happens that at work, or at the store or anywhere else for that matter, a NON believing person has shown a lot of interest in you. So, because of your loneliness you start to reason with yourself. You start to think well what can one date hurt? Then one date turns into 4 months of solid dating and now its too late. Now your in love with a NON believer and he or she has asked you to marry and to go on the most romantic honey-moon that you could even imagine. So you continue to reason with yourself, totally ignoring the bible. You say to yourself, I am sure the LORD will use me to lead my spouse to CHRIST….. You continue to reason with yourself how you will keep going to church, reading the bible, and pray to the LORD JESUS day and night, whether your spouse ever accepts JESUS or not. The fact of the matter is, your only fooling yourself, or I should say that your deceiving yourself. If king Solomon couldn't do this, and if THE LORD says you will be drawn into sin, why do you think you would be any different? It isn’t your non believing spouse that you will have to battle with, it is Satan inside of your spouse that you will be going to war with. If the wisest man in all of existence fell into sin - aka - Solomon, you will too!!!
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3). Your Flesh!!! - Your neighbor who DOESN’T believe in CHRIST JESUS just so happens to be soooooo good looking. He or she has a wonderful job and it is quite possible that they are even wealthy! You haven’t been reading the bible much the last few years and the honest truth is, you never really realize how dangerous it was to marry a non believer. You two hit of off fantastically, and in no time at all, you found yourself married to a woman who doesn’t want anything to do with JESUS, or your bible, or your church, and your destruction is straight in front of you now!
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4). Lust!!! - You waited on JESUS to send your Christian spouse to you, but during the wait your having quite a problem with lust. You have been feeling very lustful over a period of time, so when your friend who is a non believer and quite gorgeous asks you out on a date, your heart starts to beat faster, and the lust and excitement inside of you starts to really get powerful. On the dinner date he gently holds your hand. You think to yourself, well he is only holding my hand, what harm can come from that. During dinner you share a bottle of wine with him, and your really enjoying yourself. After dinner he invites you to come back to his house, but of course he guarantees you that nothing will happen, he promises! A few hours later, your driving back to your house in your car filled with shame, regret, disgust and just about every other negative emotion because of what you just did with a non believer! As you take the long drive back to your house, you keep going over and over in your mind how he promised he wasn’t going to try to have sex with you. But here is the mistake! Promises mean nothing, absolutely nothing to most non believers. Now because you both had sex and became one person and bonded, your now slowly on the road to a very bad marriage.
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5). Your walk with the LORD & HIS Holy Bible at this time in your life is very weak!!! You have been trying to re-dedicate your life to JESUS the last six months, but your having trouble bringing JESUS back into your life. Your Mom and Dad are praying for you day and night, and they also recruited a few people from church including the Pastor to cry out to GOD for you too. You meet a brand new lady on the internet who happens to live in your own city, and she is very, very attractive. She ISN’T a believer in CHRIST, but she is very nice, and she shows respect and kindness to you at all times. You both fall in love quickly, because in your entire life starting from childhood, all you ever really wanted was to be loved! You weren’t aware at this time in your life that we were suppose to get your love from JESUS. Not because you’re a bad person, but because you just didn’t have this spiritual awareness inside of your heart and soul yet. So you did what came natural. You married her and brought a non believer right into your own house. Little did you know, but now Satan has free access to you through your wife, and they will war against you!
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6). Lack of Bible knowledge!!! - You married a non believer because honestly speaking, you had no idea that GOD warns us not to. You didn’t know how dangerous it was to become one with a non believer through marriage, and now your slowly finding out as you two come back from your honeymoon and enter real day to day life as a married couple. CLICK HERE For some incredible Holy Bible Knowledge -->
Some of you reading this might think that I am being a little too hard in this article, hmmm I don’t feel I am…….
Read what GOD says here
*Mal 2:11 - Judah has been unfaithful, and a detestable thing has been done in Israel and in Jerusalem. The men of Judah have defiled the Lord’s beloved sanctuary by marrying women who worship idols.
(Women who worship idols is another way for saying the Men of Judah married NON believers!!)
Here is another statement of GOD!!
*Ezra 10:2 - Then Shecaniah son of Jehiel, a descendant of Elam, said to Ezra, “We have been unfaithful to our God, for we have married these pagan women of the land.
YOU CAN FIND THESE BIBLE SCRIPTURES WARNING US AGAINST MARRYING A NON BELIEVER ALL OVER THE ENTIRE BIBLE!!!!!!!!
If you are at this time disagreeing with me, or if your thinking of marrying a non believer right now in your life, PLEASE CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING VERY CAREFULLY.
1).Your non believing spouse will not go to church with you. Sure I know during your honeymoon when things were hot and heavy they made promise after promise that they would wake up early each Sunday to go with you, but your only being fooled…. Just a few weeks after your honeymoon or even a few months, you will be waking up early every Sunday morning to make the drive to church all by yourself with tears in your eyes. The night before, your non believing spouse and you enjoyed a bottle of wine, and were intimate together until very early in the morning. Your spouse doesn’t care, he or she wasn’t planning on getting up early Sunday morning anyway. Now after 5 hours of sleep, your alarm clock goes off and you notice that it is freezing cold outside. You have to find the strength to get up all by yourself, take a shower, and drive in the rain or snow to church while your spouse lays in bed under the heated blanket….. WOW you better re think what your doing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2). They will not want to hear your Christian music playing in the car, or at the house. Sure you might try to compromise with them from time to time, but you will find yourself with pagan music on in your car, and in the home after dinner more then you ever realized. They wont want to hear about the great Christian song that you just heard on the radio, or the brand new Christian movie that became for sell today at the Christian book store.
Some of you right here are thinking, come on Garrett. The LORD JESUS wont allow all of this to happen to me……. Ummmmm you better think again!!!!!!
You committed a sin, and went directly against what the LORD commanded you to do when it comes to marriage……… The LORD allowed Solomon to fall, that is the same Solomon who a few chapters earlier GOD was saying how much he loved him. Yes the same Solomon who wrote the Proverbs!
3). You will be all by yourself in your prayer life. They will not pray with you, I mean how can they? They have Satan in them, so if you even ask them to pray with you, your only deceiving yourself! You wont have spousal prayer support, and your house will be divided!!! If your children were to get sick, your spouse wont be able to pray with you. He or she wont be able to lend their faith for those miraculous healings that JESUS does for parents all the time across the world. You will be all alone in your prayers……….. If one of your children gets cancer, you wont be able to look to your spouse for powerful prayers of FAITH! Your non believing spouse will do what they all do, they will get the kids involved in the children’s hospitals, and Chemo Therapy, and all the other mess that the world does. Meanwhile you will be in your bathroom crying out to JESUS with real tears -(LORD why did you allow me to marry a non believer)?
4). Were you planning on playing loud Christian music after dinner, and worshiping the LORD with all of your heart and soul?? I don’t think your spouse who has Satan in him is going to like that one bit!! Where will you go to worship? Sure you could use your shower time, when you would be completely alone with the LORD - AMEN ---- But once again, you will be completely alone in your worshiping, with your husband or wife never ever joining you!!
Think about that for a few minutes!!!!!!!!
5). Were you planning on buying the new Christian music cd’s that just came out, or the brand new Christian movies that are now available at the Christian book store? Do NOT expect your spouse to give you the money! don’t even bother asking them for their credit card, after all, believing in CHRIST is foolish to non believers. To them HE is kind of like Santa clause. The non believers view JESUS just like they do Santa Claus, how do I know, they tell me all the time!!!!
6). Were you planning on sending your children to a private Christian school? Wow, you better think again!!!!!! Your non believing spouse will never agree to both of you spending around 10,000 dollars a year to send the kids to a private Christian school, when public school is for free…….. I mean come on, they will tell you that they went to the public schools, and they turned out just fine!!!
7). Were you planning on going to the Christian women’s retreat this weekend? Do you really believe that your non believing spouse is going to understand that? He or she will argue with you that your leaving them alone to take care of the entire house and the children while you go out with other women talking about complete nonsense!!!!!! You better think again!!!!!!!
I COULD GO ON AND ON AND ON WITH SUCH STORIES…… like - *One spouse taking their only infant baby, and moving away in secret back to their parents house without the other spouse even knowing about it. Or how about this one. *The Christian wife comes home all the time only to find her non believing husband naked in his chair, watching porn 7 ni
ghts a week while talking to real women on the internet. Another story is *a Christian woman married a non believing man, and after only a few months, told me that she doesn’t love him anymore! Here is one more story. *My Christian friend married a Muslim woman. He constantly wanted to bring her with us to help us do our ministry work. He wanted her to pray with us all the time, and to even perform with us during our music ministry. I guess he never realized that she had Satan living inside of her. Actually it is most likely the Jezebel spirit. He would come into my office at work all the time on his days and nights off because he was totally beaten down. You see no matter how strong of a Christian you are, the Jezebel spirit and all the other demonic spirits will slowly wear you down like they did to my friend and like they did to King Solomon too….. My friend had prophetic gifts, and was most likely in the church office of the Prophet, wow, I have no idea what happened to him now. There are literally hundreds of thousands of these horror stories all over the world. Just use your internet search engine and type in Christian marriage stories, and Christian divorce stories and you will get shocked at what is going on in the world.
Here is another scripture for you so that you can believe more!
*Ezra 10:10 - Then Ezra the priest stood and said to them: “You have committed a terrible sin. By marrying pagan women, you have increased Israel’s guilt. 11 So now confess your sin to the Lord, the God of your ancestors, and do what he demands. Separate yourselves from the people of the land and from these pagan women.”
*Judges 14:1-One day when Samson was in Timnah, one of the Philistine women caught his eye. 2 When he returned home, he told his father and mother, “A young Philistine woman in Timnah caught my eye. I want to marry her. Get her for me.” 3 His father and mother objected. “Isn’t there even one woman in our tribe or among all the Israelites you could marry?” they asked. “Why must you go to the pagan Philistines to find a wife?” AKA - (Non believers!)
But Samson told his father, “Get her for me! She looks good to me.”
(Did you see what Samson said there? - She looks good to me! Hmmm we better start obeying the bible.
Above we take a quick look at samson. Did you notice how a pagan woman caught his eye? OH WOW how the pagan men and women are SOOOOOO GOOD LOOKING!!!
His parents objected like good Jewish parents should! So what happens next?
Two different pagan women practically destroyed not only Samson’s walk with GOD, but also his life! In-fact he ended up losing his eyes, his ministry, and even his life at the very end………….. All because he wanted two non believing women - That would be Timnah and Delilah!
WE ARE NOT ALLOWED TO MARRY NON BELIEVERS! Let us obey GOD, please!
Down below all of this is the real life testimony of a Christian woman who married a NON believing man. I understand that in this real life story, the Christian happens to be a woman, but it could be visa versa too. We Christian men and women must learn to say no to even dating a non believer. In fact don’t even give them your phone number!!! I cannot tell you how many Christian lives have been completely destroyed by marrying a non believer…… This happens to both men and women world wide.
To the men - if you marry a non believing woman, the chances are extremely high that she will have the Jezebel spirit in her. I have seen this spirit wear down Christian man after Christian man. Are you sure you want to go to war with the Jezebel spirit day and night for the next ten years? Let me ask you - has your walk with JESUS been so powerful, so wonderful, so dynamic the last few years where now you feel ready to bring Jezebel into your house or apartment, and even into your bed?
You better re think what your doing!!!!!!!!!
To the women - Your husbands are usually physically much larger then you. Are you going to battle back day after day, week after week, month after month when they slowly take away your going to church, your praying, your bible reading after dinner, and even your worshiping before you go to sleep. Or are you going to submit to them like the bible says to, and willingly quit church, quit the bible, quit worshiping and quit all praying that you normally do in the house??? …….. Have you seen men when the spirits of anger, rage, and pure hatred enter them? I have seen this a lot in men, and it is terrifying to say the least!!! Are you sure you want this in your house, even with your children?
Do you really think your new husband is going to give you money for your Christian music, movies, books, bibles, Christian schools for the children, church trips and concerts, etc etc ?????
You better re think what your doing!!!!
I pray that you will really and truly and very deeeeeply RE CONSIDER who you are planning on marrying!!!!!
Love always, Garrett
Here is the real life Testimony I promised you. I pray that it will teach you a lot, and bless you in your life and in your heart. I pray that it will really open up your eyes and show you some truths about what GOD wants for his children. This real life testimony has a good ending, but there are hundreds of thousands of real life stories where a Christian marries a non believer, where the endings are absolutely terrible!
Saved from a Bad Marriage, God's Way
On August 1, 1998, I willingly and knowingly committed willful sin and married an unbeliever. In a spiritual way I took the mark of the beast because I denied the Word of God, took the name of the beast (his last name) and took his mark on my hand (the wedding ring.) I can only thank Father now for His tender-loving mercies that He did not reprobate me right there and then. Instead He brought me through it and out of it, but not without severe chastisement first. Hebrews 12:5-7 My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the LORD, nor faint when you are reproved by Him; for those whom the LORD loves He disciplines, and He scourges every son whom He receives. It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
Right after the marriage took place, I was struck with the spirit of depression. For the next three years I struggled with it every waking moment. Most people around me didn't know, but inside I was a mess. I couldn't seem to find my heavenly Father anywhere even though I cried out to Him. I knew He was punishing me for my sin of becoming unequally yoked. On top of the depression, He turned my husband against me. Jeremiah 30:14 All your lovers have forgotten you, They do not seek you; For I have wounded you with the wound of an enemy, With the punishment of a cruel one, Because your iniquity is great, And your sins are numerous.
In the fourth year of my marriage, Father began to pick me up and dust the filth from me. He at least allowed me to find Him again. I cried out to Him for forgiveness and mercy. Psalm 51:1-4 Be gracious to me, O God, according to Your lovingkindness; According to the greatness of Your compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity And cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, And my sin is ever before me. Against You, You only, I have sinned And done what is evil in Your sight, So that You are justified when You speak And blameless when You judge. I read my Bible and prayed. The spirit of depression lifted, and I was once again becoming my little happy self. I was able to spend time with my heavenly Father, and it made all the difference.
Shortly thereafter, my dad heard David Eells speak at the Prophecy Club in Phoenix and told me all about him and the UBM website. I bought an mp3 player, downloaded his teachings off the website, and devoured them literally day and night. I would clip on my mp3 player and listen while I ran errands, grocery shopped, cleaned house, did laundry, and even at night while I slept. The LORD would often wake me up in the middle of the night to hear certain pieces of teachings that I really needed to hear. Of course my husband knew nothing about it. He just thought I was listening to music.
Even though he was Catholic and considered himself to be a Christian, I had to be a closet Christian around him, as it angered him. I hid my Bible and read it when he slept. With all of those Bible studies going into me, praying in tongues, and reading my Bible, well, something began to happen. I began to sprout. Mark 4:26-29 And He was saying, "The kingdom of God is like a man who casts seed upon the soil; and he goes to bed at night and gets up by day, and the seed sprouts and grows—how, he himself does not know. The soil produces crops by itself; first the blade, then the head, then the mature grain in the head. But when the crop permits, he immediately puts in the sickle, because the harvest has come."
Now I knew my husband no longer loved me, but now he began to loath me. He would look at me and tell me, “You’ve changed.” My husband had a love for money and the things of this world. He began to lecture me about how I didn't make enough money, how I didn't want the things that he wanted, and about how I needed to set goals in my life. He wanted me to work more and more hours, quit my job and find a better job, climb the corporate ladder, work overtime hours, and petition my boss for a bigger and bigger raise so we could put a second story on the house and buy a vacation cabin in Big Bear. He even wanted to buy an airplane and neither of us even knew how to fly. I wasn't interested in any of those material things, but he really wanted them. He constantly put me down, all while I remained silent.
When he couldn't get a response out of me, he took me to marriage counseling so they could fix me and force me to talk. He figured they could turn me into a normal “keep-up-with-the-Jones” kind of wife. The first thing they did was to try to put me on Prozac, but I didn't want to take it. I asked for help from Father and He caused my husband to agree to not make me take it. Proverbs 21:1 The king's heart is like channels of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He wishes.
For nine months the counselor and my husband worked me over really well. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I always left those sessions emotionally drained and exhausted, beaten and torn down. But Father let me know that it was me that He was perfecting, not my husband. I knew those sessions were more chastisement from Father, and though they were severe, I knew I deserved worse.
By this time I had discovered David’s teaching series on “Reasons and Rewards for Resisting Not Evil,” “The Why and How of Suffering,” “No Cross, No Crown,” and later on came “How Shall We Die?” Listening to these over and over and over again allowed me to dry my tears and to start going through all this with a smile. I understood in my heart the purpose and the work that the LORD was doing in me. Hebrews 12:10-11 For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness. All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.
So I submitted to my husband in everything as unto the LORD. Now his paycheck was always his paycheck. I never spent his money, nor did I ever have access to it. From day one he always kept it to himself in his private personal accounts. My paychecks were put into an account with his name also on it, and I paid my portion of the household bills and expenses. One day he closed my account and took all the money, leaving me with nothing. He told me that I would have to give him all my paychecks and if I wanted some money that I would need to tell him what it was for. If he felt it was needed, he would give me the money, but he wanted all receipts. I submitted and gave him all my paychecks and bonuses.
Living in sunny San Diego, California, we often had guests coming to stay with us. We were a freebee bed-and-breakfast spot for his large family and their friends when they would vacation in San Diego. In the summer and at Christmas time, I would have guests for weeks, and often I was struggling to feed them. One time in particular my husband did not give me any grocery money, and I had no money of my own. With guests to feed, no money, and a lacking pantry, I cried out to Father. I told him that I was submitting to my husband out of obedience and love for Him and His Word, so He was going to have to multiply what little fishes and loaves I had… and I saw Him do just exactly that for little insignificant me. I saw it happening before my very eyes, and yet I could not explain it.
On another occasion, I was getting ready to leave work for the weekend, knowing that I was going home to a house of hungry guests to feed and a near-empty fridge. I had no money. As I walked out the door, I asked Father what He was going to serve them for dinner. Just then my boss ran out after me and gave me $50, telling me that he really appreciated all that I was doing for him. That’s when I realized the lesson that Father was trying to teach me all along. HE was my provider, not my husband. My husband had various bank accounts with almost $100,000 among them, but I lived penniless. Six months later, my husband decided he didn’t want to manage my paychecks anymore. He told me to go open my own account.
I still submitted to my husband in all things out of obedience and love for my precious heavenly Father. My husband told me he didn’t like wives who call their husbands all the time, so I never would call him. He would come home late from work, sometimes even eight hours late, but I would never call him. One time he came home 38 hours late from work, but I was a good wife and respected his wishes and didn’t call him. He was a cop, and he told me that as long as a sergeant didn’t come to the house, that he was still alive, so I was not to worry if he was late. What he didn’t realize was that I had an Almighty God who could tell me where he was. He was at the bars looking for women.
It’s very difficult for a wife to obey her husband when she doesn’t respect him and when he’s out looking for other women. How can she respect him? But when you have respect for a tender-merciful, loving, full-of-grace God, you can treat your husband with respect and love. It’s not out of love for the man, but it’s out of love for my God. I knew Father was sovereign, and I knew that He could keep my husband from sinning. I left my husband in God’s hands, and He let me know that He was thwarting every effort my husband made to be unfaithful to me. He would leave for a cruise to the Bahamas by himself, taking certain under-clothing with him that should only be worn for a wife. But Father poured out His grace upon me so that I could remain silent and submissive to him as my husband. Through all this, He gave me His peace and joy.
The more submissive I was to my husband, the more powerful God was on my behalf. Exodus 14:14 The LORD will fight for you while you keep silent. The tighter I held my mouth shut, the stronger Father fought for me. It worked peace and joy in me, but it drove my husband to drink more and more.
Often and for many hours, he put me down and told me how I was a failure in life, and I would silently sit; but my spirit was talking and listening to Father. On one of the last occasions while he was pointing out to me my many faults, he started to choke. He leaned forward to spit something out, and out rolled a crown to his tooth. In shock he looked at me and said, “I just lost my crown.” That’s when Father told me that He had removed my husband’s authority over me. Enough was enough, Father was setting me free. John 8:36 So if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed.
On May 9, 2007 he told me he wanted a divorce. These are the words he said, and I treasured them in my heart: "I want to be free of you. I should have divorced you four years ago. It's like you're living your life to die. All I get from you is peaceful waters, no fighting. I can tell you're caught up in the Bible and your obsessed with following the way of the LORD. It just oozes out of you. I’ll pack you up and move you back to your parents’ house." How he got all that without ever seeing my Bible or without me ever speaking is only because of the purifying work that Father has done in me.
The next two days he pushed and pushed for me to sign divorce papers, but I was stalling a bit because I know Father is not a God of divorce. My husband was really angry with me and stormed out of the house, and I didn't know when he would be back. He was gone for three days. During those three days, Father and I talked a lot. He gave me two scriptures: 1 Corinthians 7:15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.
So after three days with Father and those two scriptures, I decided to agree to sign the divorce papers. When my husband came back I told him I would sign whatever he wanted me to sign, even if it meant me walking out with only the clothes on my back, and my Bible, of course. The next day I signed his divorce papers, moved to Phoenix three weeks later, and the divorce was final on December 21, 2007.
Since nothing can be received unless it first comes from Father, I wasn't concerned about telling my husband that I would leave with nothing. Father had proven to me that He alone was my provider, my protector, my Almighty God. He set me free from Pharaoh, led me out of Egypt and into the wilderness of Phoenix so I could freely worship my God. And yes, He allowed me to plunder Egypt a little bit, too. I was able to pay off all my debt, move, get an apartment and buy a little bit of furniture and necessities. He provided me with a job that pays my expenses and then some.
As I was setting up my new apartment, I wanted a little bit of artwork for the walls. Now I was free to do whatever I wanted, and I wanted scripture artwork. I had my large ornate wedding frame, so all I needed was the artwork. I went to the scrap-booking store to buy some feminine papers, some antique ribbon and some white stone crystals. All I needed was the scripture. So I asked Father for Him to give me the scripture that He had for me. This is what He gave me: Hosea 2:19-20 I will betroth you to Me forever; Yes, I will betroth you to Me in righteousness and in justice, In loving kindness and in compassion, And I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the LORD.
Please don’t think that it was me who submitted to my husband, but it was Jesus in me and His grace that did the good work through me. Ephesians 2:10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.
I’ve heard a few times in the Bible study women asking about what they should do about their unsaved husbands, especially with the tribulation so close. I can say this from seeing the work that Father performed in my marriage: If you obey the LORD in all things, submit to your husband as unto the LORD, and put your trust in Him, He will fight for you. I know the LORD gave my husband opportunity to turn to Him, and he turned his heart away. There were times when my husband would ask my dad about spiritual matters, and my dad would teach him from the Word of God. But then my husband would turn around and use it against me. Father allowed my husband to turn against me for a time, but there came a time when Father said enough is enough. It is God alone Who separates the sheep from the goats, and He does.
Father is absolutely sovereign, and there was never a time when He did not have full control over my husband. Though it seemed like it, I never was at the mercy of my husband, but rather in the mercy of God.
(When it says “submit to your husband as unto the LORD,” it’s because the LORD is really, truly who you are submitting to since the LORD has full control over your husband.)
I pray that this article and the real life testimony has greatly blessed you……..
I soooooo praise JESUS for you, for JESUS loves you much much much more then you think he does………………….